Kat Lee, RDI Program Certified Consultant

Kat Lee Article for North Texas Autism Asssoication of American Newletter

Added on by Katherine Lee.

10 RDI Activities for the Whole Family

By Katherine Lee, RDI

Program Certified Consultant

RDI ( Relationship Development Intervention) is a parent training program, in which we as consultants, guide our par-

ents to be able to guide their children to address the core deficits of autism (regulating together,

flexible thinking, per-

spective taking, good enough thinking, attention to detail, inferencing, joint attention, problem solving, etc) . We have

guiding goals for our parents and goals for the children as well. Our

goal as consultants is to empower parents!

To guide our children we have to have ACTIVITIES*!

Goal : Regulating Together

Regulating together means staying together in time. When many of my families come to me, their children don't walk

next to them when they are out (at the mall, the zoo, wherever) , they don't stay in sync with their parents when they are

playing a game (throwing a ball together is not possible) or even maintain a simple patty cake together. Here are just a

few activities I recommend, depending on the child and parent of course.

1.

Jumping and falling on a trampoline together.

Holding hands jump, jump, jump fall.

( I've had moms do this on

the bed with little ones) Change it up, some times jump fall, sometimes, jump jump jump jump fall.

2.

Walking together.

Staying side by side walking together can turn into funny walking, walking backward, walking ba-

by steps, walking big steps, walking side to side, running and stopping together. My parents have done this in their hall-

way, to the mailbox, to a near by pond or just in the back yard.

3.

Falling together on a pile.

1, 2, 3

FALL. My parents have made piles of pillows, cushions and bean bags to have

fun falling together a the same time. Starts by holding hands and falling and eventually NOT holding hands and being

unpredictable, like 3,2,1 or count down blast off from 10....or 3, 2 fall

4. Drumming together.

Learning to drum together at the exact same beat.

Starts out simple....1, 2, 3. You can use

pots and pans too for flexible thinking. Once you are drumming together, you can start to change the beat

, slightly at

first, then getting more complex

5.

Basketball.

I throw you the ball , you throw it in the basket

or opposite world. You throw me the ball and I make

the basket (parents with younger children use the indoor children's goals and they start by just handing the ball to their

child and he/ she puts in the basket). For children who struggle with the ball, we use rolled up socks and hampers for

the different but same activity.

Some of my parents have used rolled up paper balls and a waste paper basket.

Goal:

Flexible thinking

Change, variation, same but different and different but same are often not tolerated by the children I see.

The status quo

or what we call "static thinking" is preferred to the dynamic life they are meant to lead. These are just a few of the activi-

ties my families work on in the process of building dynamic thinking and tolerance for change.

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RDI Activities (Continued)

1. Rolling balls back and forth together.

Change out colors of balls you use, size of balls you use, texture of balls you

use.

Some of my families have used cars instead, firetrucks, etc. Keep changing out the vehicles.

2. Painting with Squirt Guns.

Put paint in squirt gun, and shoot it onto a canvas. Washable pain please. Set up outside

or some other "paint safe" zone. Hang an old sheet or some other item that can serve as a canvass. Have everyone squirt

guns with paint in them.

3. Watermelon cookies.

Slice watermelon and use a cookie cutter to

make cookie cutter shaped watermelon pieces (can

also be done with other melon. )

4. Popping bubbles together.

Let some get away.

Chase after the bubbles together. For little ones, inside in a smaller

room may be best( but watch out for spills). Outside, the bubbles can really fly, but are fun to chase together.

5.

Make a cinnamon roll birthday

cake.

Take store bought rolls and line them into the shape of a number.

Variation

is key. You can make cinnamon role rabbits by taking some of the rolls and turning them into ears. Make noses and eyes

out of bits of cinnamon roll dough

*Before we choose activities, we select a goal, then choose a set of activities to meet that goal. All of our decisions are

based on our assessments and on going supervision of the families.

All activities can be modified for age and skill. Some

of the best activities are the most simple so you will see some of those too

Every family is unique and so every RDI program is unique with unique strategies and activities for working on the core

deficits. When a family struggles with what to do with a child, often I find that is because they can't formulate a vision of

their child" doing that activity". Helping build that vision

is my role because without it, we won't move forward. Visions

give us hope and hope moves us forward.

Katherine Lee is a RDI Program Certified Consultant in the DFW area. 

Dr. Gutstein on "Overwhelm"

Added on by Kat Lee.

This is the transcript from Dr. Gutstein's video clip, "Moving Out of Crisis"

 

Before we even talk about guiding, because guiding is the last step, really, not the first.

The first thing is we have to help you, as a parent, move out of a state of crisis.

By definition and I actually wrote seminal work in crisis theory back in the mid/late-80s 

So I know a little about crisis; and I spent my early life in it .. 

I don't have much crisis in my life now .. 

I'm not a crisis junkie, but I didn't have much control over it, 

But I did study it a lot …

and the key is here...

 

What I mean by 

a state of crisis, 

is a pace where you're very narrow-focused,

you're desperate,

you're trying everything.

you can't reflect.

you're not able to evaluate and think things through

you're trying to find a solution everywhere

you're pushing every button.

you're tired,

you're physically exhausting yourself.

 

And it's a desperate, frantic, helpless, state

you're trying to put out fires.

The idea of thinking over the longer run, 

of the longer term doesn't seem possible to you.

It's very hard to think, and get perspective.

 

All of the consultants have told me, that their perception is, that 

about 95% of every family that walks in, the parents are still in a state of crisis, 

even if it's been several years since the diagnosis. 

They're still in that state of crisis.

They're still confused, 

they're still acting desperate.

they're still searching for some immediate fix, 

some rapid solution.

 

some people are more embedded in that than others.

some people are more ready to move out and can't wait to be told it's OK. 

 

Now unfortunately, that state of crisis gets reinforced 

by well-meaning professionals 

who are ill-informed. 

So we're still hearing many professionals tell parents of a newly diagnosed child 

that there's this small window of opportunity for development

and if they don't do x y and z right now, at this level of intensity, 

the brain, the child is going to miss out on it. 

IT'S COMPLETELY UNTRUE AND 

in fact it has the opposite consequence

because 

the more desperate you are, 

the more frantic you are, 

the more that atmosphere is going to be communicated to the child 

and the child is going to experience it and 

it creates a disadvantage for them to be able to grow and develop.

It's actually going to make things worse.

 

Of course, people say that to parents with the best of intentions, 

but it has the worst effect, this sense of rushing. 

 

Children who have neurological vulnerabilities 

and this would be true of any child with a neurological vulnerable condition, 

respond very poorly, are very poor learners in frantic, intensive environments 

where they're getting lots of therapies and lots of things.

That is the worst condition, the worst environment to put them in. 

 

They need time to process. 

They need time to consider. 

They need to be carefully monitored so that they're not overloaded, 

so they're not passing a threshold. 

They need all that consideration, 

all that respect, 

all that awareness of who they are, 

not because of the diagnosis.

 

But yet, almost always what we see is when we see parents

is just the opposite. 

Somehow parents have felt frantic, 

they felt they need to do everything.

They feel like their time is running out.

They're overloaded

The parents are overloaded

The child is feeling overloaded. 

The whole system is overloaded and in crisis.

And often that will go on for years, 

until there's a burnout.

 

And so what happens is, you get to a state–

that one of my old professors, Roy Baumeister, 

talks about and that he's published papers on–

called "ego depletion."

Everyone feels so pressured, 

they're just depleted.

Your personal resources don't feel like they're there.

So then we hear people say,

 

"I don't have time to do this RDI stuff, this guiding,"

OR: "I can't video tape this."

"It's too hard."

You know why?

Because you're already in such a state of depletion, 

that there really are no resources you've left for growth and development.

 

So even things that we would think of as simple or easy, 

seem overwhelming, 

because you're right at the edge right now, 

of what you can handle because of the way your daily life is occurring. 

 

So that's why the first step in our program has to be 

to help you move out of this crisis state. 

There's nothing else we can do to help you, if we can't do that.

So before we can talk about engagement-based guiding…

 

to be a guide you have to have a state of mind 

that allows you to have perspective, 

to reflect, 

to learn from your experience, 

to be planful, 

to prepare your mind, 

to think on several levels.

 

They're all things within all of your capacity, 

because we know how to teach them to you as parents. 

but, not when you're in a state of crisis.

So at lot of times we'll hear parents say

"I can't do this,

it's too hard, 

too much,"

And it's not necessarily because it really is too hard for you, 

it's just you're so depleted right now, 

that even these steps, that we can do in a very small step-by-step basis, 

seem overwhelming to you … you're so depleted.

 

And that's why #1 is so critical.